Once upon a time I was planning my own wedding. Unlike my sista-friend who'd had her wedding planned out & preserved in sheet protectors since her freshman year in college, I had never gone so far as to envision my special day. Remember, I'm the girl who, at 13, wrote in her journal about marrying 3 times, the 3rd time to my 1 true love who I'd known most of my life. I'll tell that story, maybe, another time. As I planned my own wedding though, I found it to be a ridiculous exercise. I couldn't find a model to fit who I am & certainly wasn't in the mood to be recreating the wheel. The 1 part I did get into was figuring out what I was going to wear.
As a kid who is of what would be considered a diverse background, I wanted my dress to reflect that. More than that, my parents would give me the STRONG 0______0 if I showed up with some Euro-style white gown. The only African concept not required of me would be to have my wedding in Africa. Other than that, there needs to be some African fabric, some African languages, an African inspired ritual, some African inspired cuisine, & the commitment to give any pets African names. Oh, it's not a game with Mama & Baba K. I'm older now, & not as worried about what they want because I'm the 1 who has to be OK with my decisions
Because I'm in a wedding in May, attending another in the same month, I'm super aware of what's happening with wedding dresses out here in these aisles. I saw this dress
& started plotting on who I could marry by the end of the year. The dress is only one hunnid & fitty-nine dollaz. You read correctly. The bang for the buck alone makes me feel like I should just buy it 1 size too big & worry about alterations in the next 2-to-however many years it takes. I can really see givin' 'em fevah in all my grace & elegance next to a dapper gentleman who has removed swag from his vocabulary but can't shake it 'cause it's part of who he is. Yeah...I can see it.
But then there was this 1
You couldn't tell me NATHAN in this dress. Not. Nathan. $219. That's better than David's Formal & Bridal prices, before the scrapes & bruises when they have the running of the brides.
I like these dresses so much that, knowing I'm not getting married, I'd still help a friend purchase 1 of them so she could have the pleasure of being a vision of loveliness on her magical day, being turned from a peasant to a princess. She has the rest of her life to be a pauper, paying off wedding debt; no need to go into hock on the dress alone. I'm personally at a point in my life where I get the desire to have a grand party in honor of love & partnership, but if I can't live in it, I'm not tryna hear about thousands of dollars for too much of anything. Payment plans for a wedding? No ma'am. 1 day in my life just cannot cost more than several months of my life combined
Watch me move.