The seasons, at least where I am in Chocolate City, haven't made a decision on what to be yet. It's April, & while the showers are expected, I really think I should be done with scarves, hats, & coats. Yet, today long sleeves & a sweater were required. Tomorrow I can expect to perspire while museum hopping with my students.
This is not the only place where dualities exist. I straddle many fences in my life, as we all do. Professional vs personal. Friends vs lovers. Afrocentrism vs American sensibilities. Spirituality vs physicality. Mother vs daughter. Dualities are everywhere & cause me to be very aware of which aspects of ME I bring into each scenario. How much of ME is necessary from situation to situation? In this era of keepin it real, some of us have taken that to mean that we should be all the way live all the time. Not so. Take a moment to consider how much of who you are is actually required as you show up for work & play. Spend some time reflecting on your interactions & determine if the people around you wish you well, mean you harm, or are just hangers on. Remove the spigot from your life & stop others from sapping you of your essence, stealing parts of your identity to boost themselves. Determine when you need to be covered & careful:
& when it's OK to be open:
Same shoe. 2 sides of the same
Watch me move.