So, I watched. And the video actually made perfect sense for what I tried to hear Wayne
The fact that I brought this up clearly means I got a problem with this, that I’m in disagreement here. What the pro’lem is? Well….why come it’s assumed that she doesn’t know how to love? Love is defined in no less than 3 ways, depending on your dictionary source, & each of those ways has some subtext. A couple standard definitions are an intense feeling of deep affection; and a great interest and pleasure in something. Now, I know the definitions are oversimplified based on what you & I have felt for family, friends & members of the opposite sex (or same, depending on what team you play for). That ain’t the point. The point is that loving is something we ALL are able to do, even in instances where the recipients are undeserving--barring those people who qualify as sociopaths. It seems to me that the issue isn’t How To Love or whether or not we’re out choosing to love people who are both deserving & capable of reciprocating. Keeping on a heterosexual track because
Now that I’ve asked that question, I think the question is bigger than that. The real question is why is it always the burden of a woman to figure out how to overcome the thoroughly effed up treatment she’s received at the hands of men who don’t hold their own weight? Why is it MY fault that you run game or go upside women’s heads? Why is it MY issue that you lied to me, misrepresented yourself as SOMEBODY & then showed all the signs of being a NOBODY after we was in the thick of things? Why is it MY fault that you told me you wanted to be here but spend every second trying to draw chalk doors on my shit for escape routes like Pan’s Labyrinth? Why is it MY fault that you told me you loved me, start talkin' family, knock me up & neglect to tell me you're practicing the same script on some next chick? These “MY’s” I’m throwing around are not mine personally, but representative of some of the collective feces of bulls that some of us are out here experiencing. I’m gon’ try to keep this from being a male bashing session because I LOVE MEN & despite having had 1 or 2 run-ins with my heart & some undeserving S.O.B. (my honest feelings ‘bout dude's mama), I haven’t ever taken that out on the men who follow. I’ve taken a break. I’ve taken a breath. I’ve even taken a seat. But I’ve never taken 1 man’s failure to recognize this treasure as the next man’s assumed inability to see my shine & keep me properly buffed. Still, I DO believe that women tend to carry the onus in love, trying to stand up under the weight of feeling like we’ve failed Him & self. Funny how we think that way; always willing to give another chance, turn another cheek or replace another tooth—such as it is.
Before I let this get away from me, because the whole subject pisses me off, I just have to say to you, since Lil Wayne ain’t hardly studyin’ my opinion, that he too is off & misguided making the concept of love a woman’s responsibility. He’s telling us via imagery, Ladies, that it’s our fault & we should hurry up & learn how to do this complex thing so we can save our own lives out here. As the father to damn near every baby born between 2008 & present day, I wonder what was wrong with those women that didn’t keep Wayne still? ((in my June Cleaver voice)) Is it the restless spirit of an artist? Or perhaps his damaged ass—cuz we all are in some way or another—doesn’t know how to love either. & many of you penis-slangin’ people don’t know yourselves. So, get a bunch of folks in a room suffering from the same deficiency—which, by the way, isn’t HOW to love--& you will surely continue to garner the same effed up results. The only difference is the scope is far wider than just that chick & her lineage in that video. It’s E’RYBODY!! If your life, male or female, in any way resembles the wreck & the wreckage from that video, maybe you need to do like I’ve done & take a break, a breath, or a seat & gitchoshittogether!!! This ain’t bout that
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Post Script-I apologize to anyone who was looking for a dedication to Michael Jackson's birthday or a recap of the VMA's. I also managed not to memorialize the 10 yr anniversary of Aaliyah's death. Y'all know how I feel about bandwagoning--there's gotta be a good reason or I'm not touching it. 'Nuf other sites did. Holla at them.